Guilt necessarily gives birth to the punishment scenario, and this happens without your mind being aware of it. That is how the template of human worldview is designed: offense must be followed by punishment.
If you notice in yourself even the slightest manifestation of guilt, hurry to get rid of this useless burden, in order to avoid it in embittering your life. Live in accordance with your beliefs and you will have no guilt. No one would dare to condemn you if you do not feel guilty.
Free from guilt, you will never encounter a situation in which someone will threaten you with violence. No guilt – and therefore no punishment.
If you fail to get rid of the guilt complex, you have to stop with the excuses.
If you previously had a habit to apologize for this and that, now create another habit: explain your action only if this is actually necessary. No need to convince yourself that you are not obliged to anyone for anything, let your sense of duty remain, but externally you should not display it.
When others do not receive the previous benefits from you, the manipulators will gradually leave you alone. Meanwhile, little by little, your soul and mind will get used to the freedom of you not making excuses, and your guilt will simply ceased to exist. Consequently, there will be much fewer occasions for “redemption”.